The best healing I ever got… wasn’t from a healer

“Here are all the reasons why you’re broken and why you need to be fixed. Pay me, and I’ll fix you.”

That sounds nice, doesn’t it?

A lot of us, when we’re educated and trained in whatever practice or modality, are taught that it’s our jobs to fix, to correct, to “heal.”

Everything began to shift for me when I was being coached a couple years back.

I’ve worked with multiple coaches and therapists over the years, and there reached a point where I was working with someone who was getting frustrated that I wasn’t moving through my process quickly enough.

“You just need to forgive and move on.”

But I didn’t want to forgive. I wasn’t ready to. I wanted to just. . . Be angry. Be hurt. I didn’t want to be fixed out of that.

So I told them,

“No, thank you.”

I realized in that moment that I had outgrown their coaching. This experience lit a fire in my belly, something that empowered me to find something that created space to speak up louder, and take control over what felt right for own bodies.

Around this time I was being trained as a Reiki Master. One of the concepts within Reiki that is taught (which was foreign to me) was this—

It is not our job as a Reiki Healer to fix. It is simply our job to provide space for the body to heal itself. We provide a resource, and the client’s body takes it and uses it as their body wisely sees fit.
We do not force, change, or correct our client.

We just let them be.

The results I started to see with my clients was quick, and impactful.

Clients would hold my hand while crying, finally feeling seen for the first time. They would notice greater detoxes or relaxation. Tension would melt immediately.
Some would come back later and say that they had crazy experiences fall into place for them, or they would be guided and protected within their own intuition far more than before.

So I thought, “We’re on to something, here.”

Since then, I’ve been trained in emotional release (and currently taking even further training in it). The reason I was immediately and intensely drawn to it, is because it’s the same concept:

We are not actually “healers” or “gurus”—We are creating a safe place for our clients to fully take up space and let them have their process. The magic happens when we just allow them to be without fixing, forcing, or changing them.

I began to see even more results.

All the years I spent trying to treat my client’s bodies like a puzzle that was on my shoulders to solve and fix, wasn’t actually giving them the deep support they deserved.
Once I took a step back and allowed their body to navigate the space with its own wisdom, is when they felt their best.

Being in this space for 10 years now, my advice to you is this (take it or leave it, as always)—

If anyone speaks to you or treats you like you’re:
broken,
inadequate,
a project,

Walk away.
Or at the very least, listen to your own intuition as to whether or not this person really has something to offer you.

The people and times that have helped me heal the most, and in the shortest amount of time surprisingly, have been the individuals that took me in and said,

”Let’s just be, together.”

This helped me feel held, given space to fully explore and express until I could find what helped me and my body most, and also helped my nervous system regulate and feel the most safe.

Because this is actually how the body does heal.

So no, you don’t need to be fixed.
You need space.
To be. To feel. To come alive in your own way.

You’re a soul with multiple layers and dimensions, and you’re allowed to fully experience yourself.
And in that process, find your path to feeling the most vibrant, alive version of yourself.

I hope this helps.

With so much love,

Tora