why “listen to your body” feels impossible (and what to actually do instead)

how the fck am I supposed to listen to my body

Everyone keeps saying,
“listen to your body”

but no one actually explains what that means.

As someone who provides somatic healing here in Missoula, Montana, I hear this all the time:

“Like… what am I supposed to do with that??"

Am I supposed to hear a voice?
Is my stomach gonna start talking to me?

Because if that’s the case… I think I missed something. 😅”

Here’s the truth no one really says:

You were never actually taught how to listen to your body.

You were taught how to override it.

Push through.
Be nice.
Don’t make it weird.
Keep going.
Don’t feel that right now.

So of course when someone says,
“just listen to your body”

you’re like ???

Your body is already talking. Just not in words.

It sounds like:
• your chest tightening
• your jaw clenching
• feeling drained after being around someone
• that weird gut feeling you can’t explain
• suddenly feeling heavy, tired, or shut down

That’s not random.

That’s the communication. That’s body awareness.

But most people skip right past that, because they think listening means
they have to do something about it immediately.

And that’s where it gets overwhelming, because if you actually listened…

maybe you’d have to:
leave
say no
disappoint someone
change something

and that feels like too much. Nervous system regulation becomes something you fear.

So instead—you ignore it, talk yourself out of it, or convince yourself you’re overreacting.

The last thing I want is for people to think of somatic healing as something that’s going to burn their lives to the ground.

So let’s make this WAY simpler.

Step one isn’t fixing anything.

Step one is just noticing.

That’s it.

“I notice my chest feels tight right now.”
“I notice my stomach just dropped.”
“I’m feeling like I actually don’t want to be here.”
“I notice that didn’t feel good.”

No need to spiral, overanalyze, or force yourself to act.
Just notice, without immediately overriding it.

Because here’s what starts to happen:

When your body doesn’t have to fight to be heard, it doesn’t have to scream through symptoms as much. It doesn’t have to build tension to get your attention.

You start to cultivate self-trust.

And no, babe.
This doesn’t mean you have to change your whole life overnight.

You don’t have to leave the relationship, or quit your job, or suddenly become a completely different person.

This isn’t about blowing your life up, even if your nervous system is worried otherwise.

It’s about stopping the constant quiet self-abandonment.

Because most people don’t feel disconnected from their body, they feel disconnected from their own truth.
And their body is the thing that’s been holding that the whole time.

If you’ve ever felt like,
“okay but how do I actually do this??”

this is where I start with clients. This is the foundational, somatic healing work that I do in Missoula, and online.

Not with fixing or forcing.

Just learning how to feel what’s already there, without shutting it down. This is what cultivates emotional release, and what begins the process of “releasing stored trauma in the body.”

You’re truly just building a mind-body connection in which your body re-learns how to organize itself, without you stepping in the way.

If your body has been trying to get your attention, this is your starting point. 🖤

I have a self-start guide for just $19.

Learn how to tap into this communication without shutting it down.

I do offer somatic healing in Missoula, Montana through massage, emotional release sessions, and nervous system work.
I also work with clients online if you’re not local.

And that guide is a great place to start either way. 👆🏻